Talking about using sex toys like a dildo with your partner can feel a little… tricky, right? Maybe you’re thinking, “Will they get weird about it?” or “What if it's too much to ask for?”.

Before you decide to quit without even trying, think about what can happen if you succeed. Everything will turn up to the next-level sexy plays with your babe.

How Can I Offer A New Experience To My Partner?

Well, anything involving two people and pleasure, it’s all about how good you can chat ‘bout it, how much you can trust each other, and a little bit of creativity, especially when we are talking about sex toys!

We all are grown-ups, mature people who just wanna have fun while we are running forward our life marathons day by day. So, if you finally decide to cheer yourself up by adding a nice new toy to your love life, let’s talk about dildos and partner play. K?

Step 1 - Talk About It

I get it; talking about adult toys with anybody can feel a little weird at first. And it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with your partner - it’s also a bit scary to bring this topic out of blue to the table. But here’s the thing–when you want it, don’t try to escape from yourself and better share it with your special one.

Who else should be more on your side when having fun in bed? Your bae, of course! If you can’t talk about it, how are you gonna use it together? Let them share what they can offer to make this experience fun, sexy, and intimate for both of you, and share your opinion. It doesn’t have to be a super-serious conversation. You don’t need to dim the lights and prepare a PowerPoint presentation on “The Benefits of Dildo Use in Our Sex Life.” Just bring it up in a chill, low-key way.

Maybe you’re already messing around, and you say something like, “Hey, have you ever thought about using a dildo with me?” Or, if you’re more of a planner (no shame in that), you could have a casual chat before the heat of the moment. Something like, “So, I’ve been thinking… what do you think about trying out a toy together?” Make it part of the fun, keeping it flowing and very simple!

Step 2 - Pick The Right Toy For Both Of You

Not all dildos are equal; that’s obvious. As the sex toys’ industry is enormous - there is a whole universe of options with different shapes, sizes, and textures. It could be realistic and lifelike, could be monstrous and weirdly shaped, or something more colorful, playful, and techy.

Think about what will turn you both on. You and your partner want something that feels good for you both, especially if you plan to use it during a shared play. You can have different points of view (which is totally fine), so you can agree to test out a couple of new variations and see what will catch your interest best.

Of course, the size and shape should work for your comfort levels. And, of course, if you’re planning this purchase for anal play with a dildo, always - ALWAYS - make sure it’s got a flared base for safety. Trust me, you don’t want to end up explaining that one in an ER.

Step 3 - Lube It Up!

Let me say this loudly to the people in the back: Lube is your best friend! It doesn’t matter if the dildo is going inside you, them, or both of you - lube makes everything smoother, more comfortable, and a hell of a lot more gliding pleasurable. It reduces friction, and nobody wants to deal with that kind of uncomfortable sensation in the middle of your sexy time.

So, get yourself a good, body-safe lube, and don’t be shy about slathering it on. Try to add more fun by adding flavored lubes for playful oral action before diving into the main event. Or, if you’re into sensations, look for warming or cooling lubes that can make things even more exciting. Cause if we are playing hard – let’s make it as much fun as we can!

Step 4 - Take It Slow

If you’re just starting your experiments with those toys, please have mercy and don’t rush the process. Take it easy, making room to explore each other’s bodies with that dildo newbie. Play around with different positions, and try incorporating a dildo while engaging in oral or manual stim for a mind-blowing mix of sensations until you find what works perfectly for both of you.

Use It On Each Other

The best perk about using a dildo with a partner is that it doesn’t have to be all about the one and only you. So, get playful with it and take turns using the new toy on each other.

Even if your partner doesn’t think they’ll be into it at first, keep it simple, suggesting from time to time, giving it a try in a way that feels comfortable for you two. Trust me, at first, you’d be simply shocked at how much fun it can be to switch things up and explore new roles and scenarios together.

Mix It Up For Orgasmic Fireworks

Who said you should limit yourself to just one type of stimulation when you can combine them for an all-out sensory overload? Adding a dildo to the mix doesn’t mean you have to forget about everything else from your collection. One of the best ways to amp up the experience is to use the dildo while you’re doing other things.

Combine With Oral

For example, try using a dildo on your partner while you’re going down on them, or have them use it on you while you take care of their pleasure in other ways. Remember that the great thing about a dildo is that it frees up your hands (or mouth) for some next-level multitasking. You’ll be in orgasm territory faster than you can say, “OMG.”

Use With Other Toys

Another cool idea to try is to include some external stimulation toys while you (or your partner) penetrated with a dildo. People with vaginas can enjoy an intense clit stim with a wand. At the same time, they have a juicy and girthy dildo inside, and those who’ve got a penis can add a buzzing feel stimulating the crown or teasing their balls with another toy for explosive, insane orgasms.

Have Fun Exchanging

Don’t be afraid to experiment, play around, and switch your toys to see which sensations you can get. Trust me, an experience like this will surely deepen your connection with each other. And, who knows, maybe you’ll get creative to discuss and try new things if something feels weird for you or your partner, no biggie! There’s no right or wrong way to do it - as long as everyone’s okay and having fun, you’re golden.

Aftercare Matters

After you’ve just had this awesome, shared experience with your partner, take a few moments to cuddle, talk, laugh, or chill together. Whatever you decide, just don’t forget to clean your toy afterward! Use a toy cleaner or simply rinse it with mild soap and warm water to keep things clean and ready for next time. The last thing you want is for bacteria to get involved in your fun.

Go Forth And Have Fun!

Well, after everything said above, I want to remind you again that sex is supposed to be fun! A lot of fun! Using a dildo together is a pretty cool experience, and it’s not about being perfect or having some sort of porn-movie-level scene.

It’s about having fun together, exploring new possibilities of your bodies, and deepening your bond. So, once you take the pressure off yourselves to “get it right,” you’ll find that sex can be much more chill and thrilling than ever before.